How to be a Patient Professional When You're Really an Impatient Control Freak
I have recently come to the realization that I'm an impatient control freak.
*Pause for laughter*
Anyone close to me knows that this isn't news, really. However, I've needed to get a handle on this personality trait of mine since it's recently become a giant pain in my ass. When dealing with professional matters I'm very cool, calm and collected on the outside, but inside I'm super agitated and anxious. My lack of patience gets to me. The other side will never know that I'm sitting on the other end of my phone/laptop waiting to get some form of update or another piece of the puzzle, and they never will; but for my own sanity and for better business practices and decision-making in the future, something had to give.
Why do I always need to know things right away? Why can't I just go with the flow?
Recognizing that I'm an impatient control freak is half the battle, and although it is known to me and to those close to me that I am this way, I didn't realize how much it interfered in my professional life until just recently.
When I was just starting out in the professional world as an 18-year-old receptionist at a law firm, things came easy. I got the job through my mom (hey, I was literally out of high school, I needed all the help I could get - don't get judgie on me). Getting administration gigs was never hard for me, I gained a lot of experience and was really good at it. I never had to wait long for any answer from a prospective employer, I would usually hear back within the 24 hours that followed the interview. Even my first two jobs out of college found me! I realize that I'm spoiled/lucky in that way but it has been to my detriment - I don't know how to be patient during the job seeking/meeting process. Call it hunger for greatness or youthful inexperience, I call it a problem I am keen on solving.
Do you remember Veruca Salt from Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory? Like that.
I want the works
I want the whole works
Presents and prizes and sweets and surprises
Of all shapes and sizes
Don't care how
I want it now
Don't care how
I want it now
So how am I working on it?
By being positive and believing that everything happens for a reason and for the best. No, I'm not kidding. This goes back to the self help books I talked about in my previous blog post. There are some things that are out of my control and I need to just be patient and wait for the yes or the no, or whatever answer I get. Trust me you, if I can do something about it, I will, but recognizing when the situation is out of my control (the part I hate the most) is also when I have to make the conscious decision to let go and let God.
I'm a go-getter, sitting idle is hard for me. But it's in those moments that I learn the power of my own mind and the growth I am experiencing as a person and as a professional.
Lesson: If it's no longer in your control, let it go until a decision has been made/the ball is in your court. Be positive in your thinking and be proactive - make sure you've done what you needed to do on your end (that doesn't mean stalk the person on LinkedIn btw).