The Five Stages of Processing Unemployment
Smack dab in the middle of December, two weeks before the end of the year, I was let go from my job.
Needless to say I was in a tizzy. I was let go without notice and at the worst possible time of year. The only consolation I was given was that I was being let go because there was not enough work for me but that everyone loves me and that my work product is amazing. Well, that's all nice and dandy but my checking account's bottom line couldn't give a damn.
Now that it's been almost a month, I can wholeheartedly say that I have gone through five stages of processing my unemployment.
Once the initial shock of being out of a job for the first time in my life wore off, anger set in. I was angry that my boss wasn't man enough to tell me himself but had the office manager do it, I was mad that I got zero notice (although I am aware that notice is a courtesy and nothing more), I thought our working relationship was better than that.
Panic very quickly joined anger in my set of emotions. I began to quite literally hyperventilate as I started thinking about all the bills I had to pay and how all of a sudden I didn't have any income. My mind went reeling and tears of terror were quick to follow. Luckily, the tears part of it all only lasted a cool 30 minutes. I ain't got time for that.
I called my best friend, followed by my sister, followed by my parents. Everyone surprised me by staying calm. Here I was losing my mind. My parents have always been financially prudent individuals who made sure to instill in me and my siblings the wherewithal for financial responsibility. The fact that the two of them said that everything was going to be okay and that I'll find another job in the new year, made me settle down a bit.
Since there wasn't much I could do during the last two weeks of the year, and here I was staring at a whole week of nothing to do, my cousins in Tennessee were awesome enough to send me out there to spend some time with them and the rest of the family in the area.
So I literally escaped my problem for a while.
I spent a week in Tennessee just hanging out with my family and experiencing an actual winter (San Diego's sunshine was getting in the way of my depressive unemployed vibe).
The following week I spent with my sister who was planning on coming to visit me anyway. I decided (along with a lot of pep talks from the parentals) that I wasn't going to let this shitty situation get me down and I was going to go about my sister's visit as if nothing's happened.
We planned an epic road trip to NorCal, which was executed beautifully. Take that, world!
Somewhere along this epic road trip I came to accept my unemployed status. And by accept I mean resolve to go beast mode as of January 2nd, 2018 and not a moment before. There was not much I could do before then anyway. Other than plan out my reemployment strategy.
*insert evil laugh here*
This is what I've been up to since January 2nd:
- Used LinkedIn, Glassdoor, and Indeed to search for jobs in my field/s
- Proceeded to send out at least 50 resumes (and sometimes cover letters; the bane of my existence btw) based on the many job listings I found - anyone actually looking at these things?!
- Understand that cold sending resumes is probably not going to work
- Continuing to send out resumes because it can't hurt
- Reach out to anyone and everyone I know in San Diego - NETWORKING IS LIFE
- Emailed and texted with those who said they had leads
- Posted on both Facebook and LinkedIn that I was looking for a job - again, NETWORKING IS LIFE
- Reached out to companies that didn't exactly say they had jobs but thought it couldn't hurt to try
- Filed for unemployment - not sure if I qualify but again, can't hurt to try
- Continuously looking on aforementioned sites to see if new jobs have been posted
- Reaching out to recruiters to see if they can hook a sister up
From the few weeks that I've been unemployed, I've learned to chill out and be as proactive as I can possibly be in finding a job. I also know there's only so much I can do before going insane.
This is only day three, and I do hope to find a job VERY soon (mostly because my savings will run out soon, but also because I'm not built to just sit at home), in the mean time, I'll be here continuing to hustle on stage five until something sticks.